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Take the Dark With the Light: Accepting All Sides of Yourself

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The solely method you’ll be able to really be at peace, is to be at peace with all sides of your self

There are elements of my character that I’d moderately not come clean with. They’re swept away with the mud bunnies of my previous, confined to a nook that may by no means really be cleaned. Shame. Embarrassment. A chilly edge that glints brilliant just like the blade of a knife. Guilt. Memories of previous trauma too lengthy held onto which have wedged themselves in my consciousness, flickering within the early morning hours as I lie awake hitting replay. Various types of fixed self-sabotage. The listing might go on.

If it have been as much as my mind, I’d want away the darkish aspect and solely reside within the mild of creativity and kindness, empathy and wonder. But this isn’t a fairy story, and so I’m pressured to simply accept all sides of myself. Turn me a method for kinship and readability, flip me one other for, properly one thing else completely. The embarrassing moments; these phrases as soon as stated, by no means to be taken again; the unkind and chilly-hearted. For too lengthy, I shrunk away from the realities of previous and current darkness, resolving as an alternative to fake they didn’t exist. This, it seems, is a recipe for failure. It was a vicious cycle, one perpetuated by none aside from my very own mind that desired so strongly to be within the mild that it refused to simply accept what was within the shadows. The points of myself that nagged and ate away at my confidence, at my means to be pleased. The inside turmoil that bubbled up. The much less I accepted that aspect of myself, the extra energy I gave it, the extra these dangerous reminiscences and ideas overshadowed the great ones.

Until someday, it simply felt ridiculous.

I might obsess over pushing down the ideas and reminiscences, wishing they didn’t occur, didn’t exist. That I hadn’t stated that one factor fifteen years in the past, or hadn’t disillusioned that one ex-good friend. Or settle for that that they had, the truth is, occurred… and transfer the hell on. And in doing so, I was capable of let go of a lot. Not all of it, thoughts you, however kilos of guilt, a small lifetime of miniature battles, years of second guesses. While a few of it should take a lot, far more work, a lot more durable work, the straightforward act of accepting that I am a multi-faceted being, and that a few of these sides perhaps aren’t so shiny and that’s OK, has allowed me to maneuver ahead only a bit extra swiftly.

We all have a darkish aspect, nevertheless it’s as much as us to determine how a lot energy to offer it.

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