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Book Club Discussion, 10% Happier Pt. 3: Expectation + Outcome

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Join us for a dialogue of chapters S & H of Dan Harris’ e-book, 10% Happier.

“Is this bullshit, or is that this the actual deal?”  The query is posed in chapter S, “Retreat”,  however actually, it could possibly be utilized to most issues in life. How many occasions have you ever skilled one thing profound, solely to have your unconscious query the validity of the second, making all of it crash down? After embarking on a meditation retreat and eventually, after a lot psychological work and overcoming preconceived notions and crushing self-doubt, succumbing to the second, Harris nonetheless can’t hold the thought at bay. Are we as people doomed by our personal expectations?

Admittedly, I’m unsure I might do what Harris has carried out. Embark on a ten-day meditation retreat that options, amongst different issues, no speaking. Would I be prepared to do the work? Or am I placing the brakes on out of worry? Sure, superb issues can occur, as they did for Harris, whenever you spend that a lot time with your self and your ideas, however what occurs when the actual world comes dashing in and we’re confronted with e mail and expectation and obligation? As people we appear to be on the fixed quest to separate from the animal aspect of our brains. The aspect that seeks pleasure. The aspect that’s all the time considering of the subsequent neatest thing, whether or not it’s lattes or our weekend plans and even fretting over the not-so-nice issues in our future. Flight cancellations, troublesome conversations. We get so caught up in escaping our ideas that we find yourself obsessing over them… perhaps 10 days of silence and introspection wouldn’t be so dangerous, in any case. After being within the bubble of the retreat for these 10 days, the actual world turns into a crash course in placing the teachings that Harris discovered to make use of. How can we reconcile our ideas and realities, with our want to reside extra freely from them?

After studying Harris’ day-by-day account of his retreat expertise, I was to see how it might impact his day-to-day life as soon as he reentered the actual world. While I haven’t attended the identical sort of retreat, I have had the expertise of going to a convention, feeling profoundly impressed by what I discovered there, after which utterly tapering off as soon as I returned to my repeatedly scheduled programming of residence-work-health club-residence. Would it’s the identical for Harris? I appreciated that he admitted to diving gleefully into his e mail as quickly as he left, however no, Harris is usually profitable in placing what he discovered to apply. The similar expectations are there, the identical annoying and demanding work setting, however with the information of meditation, he’s higher capable of navigate all of it. While we might not all have the chance to attend a meditation retreat, we will study from Harris and the best way he doesn’t concede his new-discovered meditation behavior as soon as he returns to his life. Rather than blasting head-first by means of life as he as soon as had, Harris now makes the time for meditation, carving out a little bit of his day to dedicate to one thing that enriches him. In our stressed, all-or-nothing, #lovethehustle world, we might all stand to take a web page from his expertise in chapters S and eight and find time for ourselves and the issues that make us really feel most human, in one of the simplest ways potential.

Chapters S + H dialogue questions:

+ Would you ever contemplate attending a meditation retreat?

+ Do you assume it’s the human or animal aspect of ourselves that’s continuously looking for pleasure? Why do you assume that’s?

+ What actions or habits enrich your personal life? How do you carve out time for them with a busy schedule? Why is that this essential to you?

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